This is part 3 in a multi-part series that starts here.

When I imagine divorce I see in my mind a common person balancing in the center of tightrope. They balance precariously, looking from one platform to the other, wondering which journey to make, the one towards marriage, or the one towards divorce. It is safe to assume that both routes carry risk and associated dangers and now that I think about it, neither platform is really, truly “in sight”. There is a haze masking them from view.

It takes great determination for this person to stay still and maintain balance in the middle of the rope, let alone move in a direction. So there they stay, legs wobbling, airplane-arms outstretched, physically and mentally paralyzed.

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This is part 2 in a multi-part series that starts here.

Remember, this series of posts is for the future, adult versions of my children in the event that they face the decision between staying married and securing a divorce. Do I know people in difficult mariages right now? Of course I do. Quite a number of them actually. Do I want each spouse in all the various couples to read this stuff?

Without question.

But don’t assume this post is about you. The #1 reason I write this blog is for my children to know the younger version of Brenda and I.

So, if you’ve made it this far I’m going to assume that you didn’t altogether disagree with part 1. If you thought I was flamboyantly idealistic in the first part then you can relax a little. I have no intention of getting all inspirational and stuff on this one. Actually, I’m going to employ a different tactic and you should probably stop reading now. I’m almost certain you’re going to be offended because I don’t know of a nice way to convince someone to not be a liar.

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This is part 1 of a multi-part series.

I’ve never had to rescue my marriage from the jaws of divorce so everything I am about to write can be chalked up to idle speculation and whimsy.

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