Comments on: Blind-sided By a Social Worker http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/ becoming the man i should have been all along Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:40:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ryan Ash http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-1315 Ryan Ash Tue, 16 Aug 2011 04:12:14 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-1315 Wow! That's a scary story when you really think about what could have happened! It freaks me out sometimes when we're out in public because we as parents can't totally give in to our kids in public or we'll create monsters, but we also don't want them causing a scene like the one you've written about. I like how you brought it around to yourself, and how you could have made a different decision that would have kept this from happening. How many kids have you seen throwing a tantrum in the cereal aisle? I wonder how many times that could be avoided if the parent just made sure that their child had something to eat BEFORE going into the store. There are so many ways that we can mess up that we really have to pay attention and give parenting our all! Wow! That’s a scary story when you really think about what could have happened! It freaks me out sometimes when we’re out in public because we as parents can’t totally give in to our kids in public or we’ll create monsters, but we also don’t want them causing a scene like the one you’ve written about.

I like how you brought it around to yourself, and how you could have made a different decision that would have kept this from happening.

How many kids have you seen throwing a tantrum in the cereal aisle? I wonder how many times that could be avoided if the parent just made sure that their child had something to eat BEFORE going into the store. There are so many ways that we can mess up that we really have to pay attention and give parenting our all!

]]> By: Adam_S http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-76 Adam_S Mon, 15 Jun 2009 04:12:16 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-76 I had something similar happen to me. We were foster parents for a 9 and 11 year old from our church. The boys were black. We are not. I lived in a mixed neighborhood in Chicago. We were on a scheduled visit to visit the boy's mom. The younger boy decided on the way to the car that he was not going to visit his mom and tried to run away. This was not a safe thing, he could not get into our home without a key. So I sat down on the corner with him in my lap. He was fighting an yelling. Someone called the police and so we had to talk to the police about why I was restraining a boy. They took the boys into the police car to collaborate the story. But then they gave the younger boy a talking to. So not quite the same results. I had something similar happen to me. We were foster parents for a 9 and 11 year old from our church. The boys were black. We are not. I lived in a mixed neighborhood in Chicago. We were on a scheduled visit to visit the boy's mom. The younger boy decided on the way to the car that he was not going to visit his mom and tried to run away. This was not a safe thing, he could not get into our home without a key. So I sat down on the corner with him in my lap. He was fighting an yelling. Someone called the police and so we had to talk to the police about why I was restraining a boy. They took the boys into the police car to collaborate the story. But then they gave the younger boy a talking to. So not quite the same results.

]]> By: Matt H. http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-75 Matt H. Fri, 19 Sep 2008 22:26:42 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-75 Wow, how honest. Awesome story, Chris. Wow, how honest. Awesome story, Chris.

]]> By: Turff http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Turff Fri, 19 Sep 2008 00:33:16 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-74 In more direct response to your actual question, I think the spirit of your statement is correct. The responsibilities of parenting our children FAR outweigh shopping and other such pursuits. Its perhaps a bit unfair to parse word by word, but is a response to a blog post, so I shall parse away: my one quibble is near to end where you say "...so that we can keep our girls HAPPY" (emphasis mine). "Happy" isn't necessarily the goal. In fact, when discipline is what is needed (to learn it, and at times to administer it), they may in fact be quite UNhappy. The gist of your post is so right though. Being a good parent often means sacrifice. Frau Himmler was WAY out of order, though. Her time in government service has apparently caused her to buy in the tragically wrong mindset that the government is more capable of raising and caring for a child than a set of loving parents. As a tax payer, I apologize that one of our collective staff members inserted her misguided, misinformed nose into your already difficult (if educational) afternoon. In more direct response to your actual question, I think the spirit of your statement is correct. The responsibilities of parenting our children FAR outweigh shopping and other such pursuits. Its perhaps a bit unfair to parse word by word, but is a response to a blog post, so I shall parse away: my one quibble is near to end where you say “…so that we can keep our girls HAPPY” (emphasis mine). “Happy” isn’t necessarily the goal. In fact, when discipline is what is needed (to learn it, and at times to administer it), they may in fact be quite UNhappy.

The gist of your post is so right though. Being a good parent often means sacrifice.

Frau Himmler was WAY out of order, though. Her time in government service has apparently caused her to buy in the tragically wrong mindset that the government is more capable of raising and caring for a child than a set of loving parents. As a tax payer, I apologize that one of our collective staff members inserted her misguided, misinformed nose into your already difficult (if educational) afternoon.

]]> By: Lee http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-73 Lee Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:09:37 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-73 Chris, you must be the most tolerant person I know. My own personality is too loud and confrontational to let something like this go; even though I know better. But I totally get being at a loss for words for such a situation. My dad used to tell me some fights are worth fighting, but in the end you rarely win anything, wished I’d listened to him more. Next time just sic Sydney on them! Chris, you must be the most tolerant person I know. My own personality is too loud and confrontational to let something like this go; even though I know better. But I totally get being at a loss for words for such a situation.

My dad used to tell me some fights are worth fighting, but in the end you rarely win anything, wished I’d listened to him more.

Next time just sic Sydney on them!

]]> By: Turff http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-72 Turff Thu, 18 Sep 2008 20:20:01 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-72 Perhaps he was blessing me. It probably would not have been one of my greater moments in terms of being His witness. But you are right. The most important step one can take when a meltdown is eminent is to find cooling rods or run like hell. Perhaps he was blessing me. It probably would not have been one of my greater moments in terms of being His witness.

But you are right. The most important step one can take when a meltdown is eminent is to find cooling rods or run like hell.

]]> By: Turff http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Turff Thu, 18 Sep 2008 20:18:32 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-71 God blessed this woman by allowing her to encounter you rather than me. God blessed this woman by allowing her to encounter you rather than me.

]]> By: Chris F. http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-70 Chris F. Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:58:59 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-70 La Leche women are indeed aggressive, militant freaks. I'm pretty sure they seek out conflict like that. Quite obnoxious. La Leche women are indeed aggressive, militant freaks. I’m pretty sure they seek out conflict like that. Quite obnoxious.

]]> By: Wendy http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-69 Wendy Tue, 16 Sep 2008 19:06:12 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-69 I feel your pain. I was attacked by a La Leche woman while feeding Lily from a bottle and not breastfeeding. You know, my child who had a heart surgery and couldn't breast feed, becuase I had to pump all freakin' day and add in extra calories? By the grace of God I did not KILL that lady. I still pray that she doesn't die due to her approach to strangers. I feel your pain. I was attacked by a La Leche woman while feeding Lily from a bottle and not breastfeeding. You know, my child who had a heart surgery and couldn’t breast feed, becuase I had to pump all freakin’ day and add in extra calories? By the grace of God I did not KILL that lady. I still pray that she doesn’t die due to her approach to strangers.

]]> By: Jeff B http://dewde.com/2008/09/blind-sided-by-a-social-worker/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Jeff B Mon, 15 Sep 2008 17:10:44 +0000 http://dewde.com/?p=123#comment-68 sounds like 2 people needed an old fashioned spanking. Hey i got it and i turned out okay..... right? (and one of those needing a spanking was the social worker) :-P Love! Jeff sounds like 2 people needed an old fashioned spanking. Hey i got it and i turned out okay….. right?

(and one of those needing a spanking was the social worker)
:-P

Love!
Jeff

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